From a correspondence with a friend about not trying to 'force life.'
"I think of golf as an example. Don’t worry about the score, only the next shot. Don’t fear missing the shot and feel grateful, but not surprised, for one well executed. You will never hit them all perfect…it is the nature of the game. Your opponent is only the course, never the person you are playing. Make sure you are never the opponent. Trust your abilities and preparation. Draw from your past successes as an indicator you can do it. Trust the numbers, and the feeling in your gut. Feel the wind, feel the grass, feel the game. Nothing else really matters. Let the outcome be what it is."